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Mark Murray
JULY 4, 2017 AT 10:28 PM
Hello Tim.

I read your article titled “life is about love and letting go”. It helped me have a better understanding of aspects of my life that I had struggled with for many years.

I was abused as a child. I have had many years of difficulty letting my children grow and then letting them “go” and accepting that they, to, need to move on and discover their own way in this world.

And i, more than anything, want them to know that when they are doing that discovery I love them no less for it. It is, however, painful. And i cry because of the sadness of losing myself each time I loose a bit of them.

And looking at onesconfusion and unhappiness is compounded when it is tied up with childhood abuse.

After dealing with my abuse i found it difficult to accept the loss of my innocence because of what was taken away from me as a child. These mixed up emotions and feelings have impacted on the “letting go” of my own children.

That has effected my ability – even though I want to – to let go of my own children. Your article helped me in fitting some aspects of my personal jigsaw together.

I remember reading somewhere that the biggest act of love that a parent can do is “to let go ” of your children and to keep on letting go.

I still have a lot of miles to walk. And I doubt that my journey will ever be finished. But that is the nature of the journey of life is it not?

Thank you for your article.

The Guardian/Obsever have done two stories on the abuse at the Comboni Missionaries ( Verona Fathers) Catholic Seminary at Mirfield. I am on of the Comboni Survivor Group.

There is a good paragraph below that I find particularly powerful.

Best wishes.

Mark ( Murray)

Wisdom is the recovery of innocence at the far end of experience”

“I start from the conviction that many of the most important things we know are things we know before we can speak them; indeed, we know them—though with very little in the way of concepts to make them intelligible to us—even as children, and see them with the greatest immediacy when we look at them with the eyes of innocence. But, as they are hard to say, and as they are often so immediate to us that we cannot stand back from them objectively, we tend to put them out of mind as we grow older, and make ourselves oblivious to them, and try to silence the voice of knowledge that speaks within our own experiences of the world. Wisdom is the recovery of innocence at the far end of experience; it is the ability to translate some of that vision into words, however inadequate. There is a point, that is to say, where reason and revelation are one and the same.” ~ David Bentley Hart.