Catholic Church urged to apologise to abuse victims

Catholic Church urged to apologise to abuse victims

  • Cardinal Keith O'Brien stepped down from the archdiocese of St Andrews and Edinburgh in February 2013 after allegations of inappropriate behaviour

    Cardinal Keith O’Brien stepped down from the archdiocese of St Andrews and Edinburgh in February 2013 after allegations of inappropriate behaviour

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A commission investigating abuse in the Roman Catholic Church in Scotland has called on it to make an “unmistakeable and unequivocal” public apology.

It said the church must “heal the hurt and address the anger” of victims.

The church asked Dr Andrew McLellan to lead a review of how it handles allegations of abuse, following a series of scandals.

It took evidence from victims in a bid to improve support services and protect vulnerable children and adults.

Dr McLellan, a former moderator of the Church of Scotland, was tasked with coming up with proposals aimed at making the Roman Catholic Church in Scotland “a safe place for all”.

The 11 review commissioners, who include a senior police officer, a journalist and an MP, were tasked with assessing the quality of support available to survivors.

‘Absolute priority’

It was not within the scope of the commission to investigate or adjudicate on current or historical allegations.

The commission made eight recommendations, including calling for support for survivors of abuse to be an “absolute priority”.

It also said justice must be done for those who have been abused.

 

The report also recommended that the church’s safeguarding policies and practices be completely rewritten and subject to external scrutiny.

It called for a consistent approach to dealing with allegations across Scotland and improved training for those in the church.

Mr McLellan said: “The Bishops’ Conference of Scotland should make a public apology to all survivors of abuse within the church.

“An apology must be made in a way that is unmistakeable and unequivocal.”

‘Heal the hurt’

He added: “The Bishops have said from the outset that they will accept our recommendations.

“That means that three things will happen.

“First and most important a beginning will be made to heal the hurt and address the anger which so many survivors feel.

“Second, the Catholic Church in Scotland will begin to confront a dark part of its past and find some healing for itself.

“Third, a significant step will be taken in restoring public credibility for the Catholic Church.”

His review was announced following a series of scandals.

The Church faced allegations of abuse at the former Catholic boarding school at Fort Augustus Abbey in the Highlands.

The former leader of the Catholic Church in Scotland, Cardinal Keith O’Brien, stepped down in February 2013 after admitting sexual misconduct.

The church said it would make public annual audits of all allegations received by the church.

It has published details of allegations dating from 2006 to 2012 and then for 2013.

The church also said it would instigate a retrospective investigation of historic allegations, dating back to 1947 – with work continuing on that.

It said any allegations uncovered as part of this, which had not been acted upon, would be passed to police for them to investigate.

Fathers of the Resurrection by Frank McGinnis

I think it was 1965, so I would have been 13 years old. It’s strange how some memories remain in the corners of your mind, others that would complete a desired picture are gone forever. We were invited to enjoy the hospitality of the Fathers of the Resurrection at their monastery in Mirfield. It was a short walk and we were greeted most warmly by them. A sort of inter-faith get-together. We were all way ahead of our time back in those days. Their long hooded robes tied at the waist with rope gave the Monks the look of a band of extras from the TV series Robin Hood. I was sure Richard Greene, or a few ghosts would be hiding within the grey walls of their imposing ‘castle’. A magical 16th Century feel to the whole setting and yes, just a wee bit scary.

The Monks performed a play for us ‘The Importance of being Earnest’. I must confess I hadn’t laughed so much since I’d been to the dentist. I don’t recall if we had ‘munchies’ during the play, I would have remembered that before Ernie. They were the friendliest of people. I had no idea what their worldly mission was, I still don’t. They are still there as far as I know so their cause continues. There was a return visit by them to our college some time later, must have been near Christmas as I remember a lot of carol-singing going on.

I don’t know why my brain has retained this event, I’m sure it must have it’s own reasons. I want it to remember names of guys I spoke with at certain times, about things that are important now. It keeps me locked out, allows me a glimpse of a blurred picture here and a fragment of conversation there. It’s like a game of ‘hide & seek’. The answers are behind some castle wall but I know they’re there. Maybe I’m still afraid of ghosts. Frank

Sometimes it is good to laugh at ourselves

A couple of days ago I was reflecting on my time at Mirfield with the Verona Fathers (Comboni Missionaries). There was a couple of incidents which in hindsight made me both squirm and laugh at the same time. Squirm because what potential danger I put myself in and laugh because what else do you do when you realise you have made an absolute arse of yourself.

The first incident involved me and two other lads (I think one was Chris Lloyd) and we decided to go into the science lab (opposite the tuck shop). Armed with a Quink Ink bottle and not much intelligence we quickly located the hydrochloric acid and some granulated zinc. Incidentally we did not have a clue as to what would occur when you mix these two substances. We put the lid of the bottle back on and quickly the contents started to glow red. I ran out with it in my hand and it promptly blew up in the corridor. Not much chance of hiding this event. Wasn’t long before we found ourselves in Frasier’s office. For our stupidity we received the cane. Not sure of how many strokes. To this day I still cannot fathom how I did not lose a hand or a couple of fingers.Anybody else remember this event?

The second incident involved a horse that was kept in the field just below the football pitches. Myself and another couple of lads decided that we would attempt to ride away to a glorious future. I attempted to climb on to the horse. The horse reared up and I fell off and the horse’s hooves just missed my head! Any thoughts of galloping off was quickly stopped.

Let us know what mischief you all found yourself in.

Regards

Ben

“Father Look at Me”

My trip to Verona was an  important and monumental event for me.  The biggest in my life.  I met, and i spoke with,  Father Romano Nardo , my Mirfield priestly sexual abuser after 45 years.

 

I was able to ask him to look at me: “look at me, look at me, look at me, look at me, Father look at me”  —  his response “i am not worthy”  

 

 

I was able to ask him to try and understand that what he did to me as a child had destroyed a massive part of me.

 

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I can live with what happened to me by Nardo.

 

However, It is much harder to understand the arrogance and the complete lack of compassion for what the CM’s are continuing to put my friends and my family through.

 

When my son was coming up to the age of 14 – the same age as i was when i was abused by Nardo – the memories and the flashbacks of my abuse very nearly destroyed me.

I tried to talk with the CM’s about that – they did not want to know.

 The CM’s are not the Church in Verona. They may think they are, but they are not. 

 They are, or should be according to the Gospels, on this world to serve. They have chosen a vocation of service to the venerable, destitute and those in pain and suffering.

 They are here, as we all are, to love. They have chosen to love as Jesus showed them how to.

Jesus did not abuse children, nor condone or cover up the abuse of children.

 We are all on the same journey, with the same end.  When I was in Verona meeting my priestly abuser, the CM’s  journey was not with me. They were in their own shallow, safe and comfortable place that I could not, nor did not,  want to recognise or be part of. 

 “You must move on. ”  “There is nothing here for you.”  “I will pray for you.”  “Prayer is very powerful.”  “if you are waiting for an apology from the Combonis you will be waiting for a long time.”

 Thank you, but no thanks Father Superior of Verona.

 Nardo apologised. 

 The CM’s did not have the guts to apologise. They did not have the guts to listen. If they had, truly listened, with an open and honest heart in the spirit of justice and the Gospels they would have known that their only true response would have had to be one of apology and empathy. That would take courage and that would leave them vulnerable. They had not the guts to do it.Thet sent for their lawyers and the carabineer

 And they still do not have the guts to listen to me and the others that were abused.

 I was informed last week, from a very reliable source, that Father John Clarke would like to apologise to me – however,  his hands are tied –  in other words his lips must remain sealed because the CM’s lawyers have said that is the way it must be.

 The abuse carries on. I, and others,  have to deal with it all every day.

Move On Forget About Your Abuse

There are some people who think that those abused at Mirfield should now get on with their life.

 

Accept or forget what happened  to you as children and move on.

 I suspect, that the Comboni Missionaries – and maybe some non Combonis – want that to be the case.

Perhaps they are thinking, and hoping, that the Blog has served its purpose.

 It, the blog,  has highlighted the abuse that took place to children at the Comboni seminary at Mirfield, so now, close it  down –  or use it as a medium to remember the good times. Why carry on writing about the abuse that happened there.

 The blog has always been there for the Mirfield experiences of many – happy and sad.

 Many, that have posted and written comments on the blog have done so for the empowerment of themselves, more so, than wanting others to read what they had to say.

 The blog has enabled others to confront and to not to feel alone with their past.

 They write on the blog  just as much for themselves  as for those that read it.

For some people that may be hard to understand. I know it will be for the ‘big people’ – the Superior and the Vice Superior that I met on my recent visit to the Comboni Missionary house in Verona.

 

Mark Murray

National Catholic Reporter — Dominican Fr. Thomas Doyle meets with members of pontifical commission on sex abuse

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One of the most severe critics of the church’s handling of the sex abuse scandal spent several days last month briefing members of the Vatican commission appointed to advise Pope Francis on the issue.

In a phone interview Monday, Dominican Fr. Thomas Doyle confirmed that he met with four members of the commission in London after he was approached to consult with the group by commission member Marie Collins of Ireland, who was raped by a priest as a youngster.

Doyle said he personally knew Collins and has “the highest regard and respect for her. I was really encouraged when she was appointed a member of the commission.” He said they met following a conference in the United States in April and Collins asked him then if he would be interested in serving as a consultant to the commission.

“Of course I said yes,” said Doyle, who said was skeptical at the time because of his past activity advocating for victims and serving as expert consultant or testifying on behalf of plaintiffs in thousands of cases in which church authorities were defendants. He said he told Collins, “I doubt very much that anyone in the Vatican is going to want to have anything to do with me or listen to anything I have to say.” Attempts to reach Collins were unsuccessful.

Doyle said he spent eight to 10 hours over three days at the beginning of June explaining the situation in the United States from the perspective of his 30 years of advocacy for victims. His involvement in the crisis began in 1984 while he was working in the offices of the Vatican embassy (now a nunciature) in Washington, D.C., and received notice that a family in Lafayette, La., planned to sue the diocese over a case of abuse.

 

His early involvement with that case and his understanding even then that a potentially huge scandal was unfolding led him to take up the cause of sex abuse victims.

While many abuse victims view any initiative by the Vatican with great suspicion, Pope Francis has taken steps, particularly in holding bishops accountable, that victims and their advocates have been requesting for years. Francis has removed a number of bishops, including an archbishop, a bishop and an auxiliary bishop in the United States, for failures in handling the abuse crisis.

In December 2013, he established a commission to advise him on the issue. That Doyle would be invited to consult a papal commission might be seen as another initiative that would previously have been regarded as highly unlikely.

Peter Saunders, another victim who was appointed to the commission in December, said in a phone interview Thursday that he first raised the possibility of inviting Doyle during a meeting of a small working group of the commission in London. He said he and Collins knew Doyle from previous work on the sex abuse issue, and other members of the small group had no objection to the idea. He said he raised the possibility again in early February during a three-day plenary session at the Vatican attended by all members of the commission, including Boston Cardinal Sean O’Malley.

“There was general agreement,” he said, “that if we thought he was a good person to engage with, then we should.”

In addition to Collins and Saunders, the June gathering included Catherine Bonnet, a well-known French child psychiatrist, and Baroness Sheila Hollins of London, an expert in mental health.

In his presentations to the commission, Doyle emphasized what he said are two essential points:

  • The “absolute need for real accountability” on the part of bishops for what they have done and not done in regard to the issue. “There’s no question — it has been eminently documented that they have enabled sexual abusers for ages.” Through the long history of abuse, the hierarchy’s relationship to victims “has been very adversarial and still is.”
  • The need for the church to be far more committed than it is to the welfare of victims, a topic that gets avoided amid the efforts now made to protect children.

He said the church has done a great deal to put in place programs and protocols to protect children.

“Protection of children is certainly a natural approach to take for this issue,” he said. “We have to protect children. It is also much easier and less painful and controversial than saying, ‘Our No. 1 mandate should be the care of victims because they are our own victims. They were not victimized by any other institution.’ “

The past, he said, is important “because of the legions of people out there whose lives are irreparably ruined because of what clerics and hierarchy have done to them. These people have to be given the highest priority.” Focusing exclusively on the future and programs being put in place to protect children was an approach he described as “a software solution to a hardware problem.”

In an outline prepared for the presentation, Doyle spoke of the “two most vivid memories” in his work on the issue. The first was a meeting with a 10-year-old boy, “then hearing his psychologist describe what had happened to him and how it affected him. Coupled with this was my reaction to reading the detailed report.

“The second memory was the night I realized not only cognitively but emotionally that some of the bishops in high positions were actively and even aggressively covering up the cases of sexual abuse and in the process were laying [out] their public responses and responses to parents with lies. I was stunned and emotionally devastated on that occasion.”

He told the panel that priests and bishops who have publicly supported victims “have been punished in some way by church authorities. Those who continue to minister to this issue in various ways remain under suspicion” and are “criticized, slandered and devalued” by other clerics and church leaders.

Sexual abuse, he said, “is a complex, multi-faceted reality” and one “deeply embedded in the clerical culture” as well as the wider culture of the Catholic church. Among the causes contributing to abuse are the nature of priesthood; the social structure of the institutional church as a monarchy; and a sacramental structure that often places laypeople “in a passive-dependent relationship with the clergy.”

In addition to giving “highest priority to reaching out to and healing victims of sexual abuse” by more than speeches and decrees, he said bishops should “publicly acknowledge that sexual predators have been protected and enabled by bishops, archbishops and cardinals and that this criminal behavior is as bad as or worse than the individual acts of sexual abuse.” Church officials also should seek “to understand and appreciate the complex nature of the spiritual devastation caused by sexual violation by clergy.”

Saunders said the others present at the meeting viewed Doyle as a powerful voice who “has seen the dysfunction from within the system.” He said Doyle “was warmly welcomed and greatly appreciated.”

Saunders said he believes the papal commission may represent a new and positive step in dealing with clergy sexual abuse.

“I live with perpetual hope,” he said, adding that in a personal meeting with Pope Francis last year, “he personally struck me as being genuine at wanting to engage.”

The full commission will meet again in October in Rome.

[Tom Roberts is NCR editor at large.

Mid 60s TV at Mirfield Revisited – By Frank McGinnis

Mid 60s TV at Mirfield Revisited –  By Frank McGinnis

I watched a BBC music show the other night. The Monkees were featured & it brought back memories of the Saturday early evening shows we were allowed to watch. I’m sure those who were at Mirfield at the time can name all four Monkees (no cheating). I also recall seeing a show, sure it was presented by Bob Monkhouse, compiled of old silent movies (keystone cops etc). I still like that stuff. (Nostalgia’s not what it used to be).
I may be wrong but I think we also endured a comedy show called ‘I love Lucy’. She must have been 102 but pranced around like a 92 year old. Oh….. shivers. The show that really stands out though is the one with a wee crinkly, wrinkly old man who played a schoolboy. Jimmy Clitheroe ? That was totally weird. Like the Krankies on crack. Have I missed any other shows ?
The holy fathers (for our sins) also let us watch Englands first match in the 1966 World cup. Against Uruguay, a boring draw. I don’t remember how that competition panned out. Like everyone else in Scotland I was washing my hair that summer. 🙂 Frank McGinnis